Bride Says She Wants to 'Repurpose' Same Wedding Dress Sister Wore During Her Own Vows Just One Year Earlier
“I told her I wasn’t comfortable with her altering my dress, especially since it has a lot of sentimental value to me," the bride's sister said
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A stock image of two women shopping for wedding dressesA bride shared on Reddit that her sister is looking to "repurpose" the wedding dress that she wore just a year earlier to exchange her own vows
“I was taken aback,” she shared. “I told her I wasn’t comfortable with her altering my dress, especially since it has a lot of sentimental value to me. She got upset and said I was being selfish because she wanted to save money on her wedding, and ‘family should support each other' "
Ultimately, she said that her sister told her that she "won't feel comfortable" with her attending her wedding if she wouldn't "show” her “support" and let her use her dress
A bride is refusing to let her sister attend her wedding unless she lets her “repurpose” her dress.
The 28-year-old woman shared in a post on Reddit’s popular "Am I The A------" forum that her 26-year-old sister, who is planning to get married soon, gave her an ultimatum to allow her to use her wedding dress from last year or not come to her wedding at all.
The Redditor explained that she had tied the knot last year and one of the highlights from the eve was her wedding dress — an A-line gown with “intricate beadwork and a long train.” She described it as her “dream dress,” and noted that she felt “like a princess” in it.
She shared that her little sister is currently engaged and planning for her wedding, which will be held in six months. When she came over to discuss plans with her, the woman noted that her sister “casually mentioned that she'd love to ‘borrow’ ” her wedding dress.
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“She thinks it would be ‘cute’ to ‘repurpose’ it, maybe by shortening the skirt or even dyeing it a different color so it’s 'unique to her,' ” the 28-year-old said.
“I was taken aback,” she continued. “I told her I wasn’t comfortable with her altering my dress, especially since it has a lot of sentimental value to me. She got upset and said I was being selfish because she wanted to save money on her wedding, and ‘family should support each other.’”
The Redditor said she “stood” her “ground,” and her sister “accused” her of “not caring about her big day” before storming out. She said her parents eventually got involved and told her that she was “breaking” her sister’s heart by refusing to share her dress.
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“They said that since I'm married and ‘done with the dress,’ it shouldn't be a big deal,” she wrote. “But it is a big deal to me. I want to keep my dress as it is. They suggested I just ‘let her have her way’ to avoid family drama, but honestly, I feel like it's my dress and my decision.”
She said that her sister told her that she "won't feel comfortable" with her attending her wedding if she wouldn't "show” her “support" and let her use her dress. “I don’t want to miss her wedding, but I also don’t want to give in to something I’m not comfortable with,” she shared before opening up the forum to comments.
Several Redditors sided with the woman, including one person who said, “You don’t just get to decide to claim somebody else’s sentimental property. Let alone decide to hack it up and change colors. I would refuse to go under any circumstances.”
Another chimed in, that her sister was “being selfish” and she needed to continue to “stand on your ground.” They added, “If she loves you, she won't blackmail you and put conditions [to your attendance.]”
Others encouraged the woman to not “give in,” saying that if she does, “it'll not only ruin the memory of your wedding, but the item you cherish from it the most.”
“If your family is so hell-bent that 'family helps family' then everyone can pitch in to help your sis get her 'unique' dress she wants,” they added.
