Woman Says She Won't Go on Family Trip After Boyfriend Is 'Abruptly Uninvited'

The woman's aunt has now taken over the planning, saying, "the old trip no longer exists"

A woman is igniting viral conversation after sharing that her boyfriend of three years has been "abruptly uninvited" from a family trip — despite spending nearly a year planning to go.

In a post shared to Reddit, the anonymous, 28-year-old woman writes that she and her 30-year-old boyfriend spent eight months thinking they were both going on a two-week trip to her family's country of origin.

"My mother — who traveled there with my youngest sibling (16) in summer '23, at the invitation of my sibling's friend's family who are also from this country — pitched the idea of the trip to my siblings and me around January 2024 and said she also hoped her sister and brother-in-law (my aunt and uncle) and their children would want to come," the woman writes. "When my mom first mentioned the trip to me, I asked if my partner could also come. She said yes, and since then she has talked about it to both of us/in front of him at least a few times."

The couple spent months saving for the trip and even found someone to watch their dog while they were gone.

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But everything changed two weeks ago, when the woman received an email from her aunt about the trip, "saying the invitation was NOT being extended to either my partner or my cousin's partner."

"I was confused, because the way the email was written did not acknowledge that my partner had been invited on the trip from the get-go, months before my aunt and uncle decided to come," she adds. "I wrote back expressing that my mom had originally made it seem my partner would be welcome, and that I thought it would be incredibly hurtful to my partner to revoke his invitation and that it would feel like our family was rejecting him. I also mentioned that we were planning not only to pay for our own expenses but to contribute to the overall family fund for the trip to help cover expenses for others as well."

The woman's aunt responded, saying that now that she and her husband are part of the trip, "the old trip no longer exists."

As they continued exchanging messages, the woman writes, "The tenor of my aunt's emails became angrier and she insisted that since he and I are not currently married, my partner doesn't count as part of our family."

"I do get (at least intellectually) the desire for an immediate-family-only trip back to our country of origin, but I just don't think you can invite someone and then disinvite them, especially someone's partner," the woman writes.

The rest of the family, meanwhile, "seems to think that this is ok to do given the importance of the trip to our immediate family and the fact that my aunt and uncle have both worked incredibly hard and always been incredibly generous with my mom and siblings and me, helping us through a lot of financial difficulty."

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Commenters have weighed in on the situation, with some arguing that the family is "being extremely disrespectful to both you and your partner, especially after they initially invited him. If they're going to act like this, they shouldn't expect any financial contributions from you."

Another adds that the woman's aunt "reeks of entitlement."

"OP deserves better support from her family, especially when she's choosing her partner over their manipulation," they write.