This Woman Cut Off Her Husband's Access To Her Credit Card After He Spent Thousands On Spoiling A Female Friend. Now His Family Is Calling Her A "Bad Wife"

While scrolling through good old Reddit, I stumbled across yet another outrageous relationship story that made me audibly gasp in disbelief. This time, it was about a husband getting caught spoiling a female friend while using his wife's credit card.

Here's the full story: "I (35, female) have always been the main breadwinner in our marriage, while my husband (40, male) has had some bad luck in the job market. Since his credit isn’t great, I allowed him to use my credit card for 'work-related expenses' and to help him 'rebuild his credit.'"

This has been our arrangement for the past few years, and I always assumed he was responsible for it, focusing on career networking."

"A few weeks ago, I noticed some very unusual charges on my statements: luxury items, high-end dinners, spa visits, and even a weekend stay at a hotel. At first, I thought he was spoiling me or planning a surprise. But when I casually mentioned it, he got defensive, saying it was 'none of my business' and part of his 'professional network investment.' That immediately set off red flags."

"After some sleuthing, I discovered the truth. The 'business investment' was actually a 'friend' he recently met — she’s 24, single, and apparently very impressed by his generosity. I saw text exchanges where he offered to take her shopping and help her with 'career advice,' buying her lavish gifts on my credit, essentially giving her the lifestyle she’s 'used to.'"

"When I confronted him, he claimed she was 'just a friend in need' and that his 'support' was necessary for building his client base. I told him no client relationship justifies thousands in personal expenses, especially without discussing it with me. He accused me of 'suffocating' his potential and that I was 'jealous of him helping a younger woman succeed.' In a fit of rage, I canceled his access to my card immediately."

"Now, he's saying I've ruined his professional image, and some of his family members (who never liked me) are calling me 'controlling' and a 'bad wife' for not supporting his 'career.' He insists that cutting him off was an overreaction and that he was doing it all 'for our future.'"

"I'm feeling gaslit, yet wondering if I really did overreact by cutting his access without a conversation. Am I the asshole for pulling the plug on his 'generosity' with my credit, or did I go too far?"

The gaslighting is ASTONISHING, and I'm not the only one who thinks so. "You're not overreacting at all. He's been using your money to fund someone else’s lifestyle without your consent. Canceling the card was the right move to protect yourself," user Left-Schedule6535 wrote.

"Just a friend in need who needs high-end dinners, spa visits, and a weekend at a hotel? It doesn't sound like a business relationship; it sounds like an affair with a 24-year-old that you're footing the bill for," user Princess-of-power-42 agreed.

"In my opinion, you didn't go far enough if he's still living in the same house as you and isn't getting kicked to the curb immediately. I wouldn't "control" him; I'd just set him free to do what he wants to do with his 24-year-old girl,  just not to be financed by you."

"You already know what’s up. My ex was helping out a young woman, too. They have 2 kids together now," user Agreeable_Squah6317 shared.

"Your reaction is valid, but consider that the way you canceled his access could have been more communicative. You could have expressed your concerns first and then taken action. However, his behavior is very concerning," user MsAlexismalone wrote.

What do you think about this messy situation? Let us know in the comments below.