What's your sexual signature? Experts share eight erotic tricks that will blow your partner's mind
Feel like you need to up your sex game? Whether you’ve been with your partner for years or are in the throes of a new relationship, often it’s that ‘one thing’ they do – their ‘sexual signature’ – that sends you into a new stratosphere of pleasure. To help you find yours, we asked the sexperts for their hottest tricks.
1. The mindful lap dance
“Perform a mindful, conscious lap dance for your partner, using slow deep breaths and rhythmic body movements, flowing with the sexual electricity and energy between you both,” suggests Jennifer Surch, Founder of the Academy of Modern Tantra. “Tease and tantalise, but with no touching! The receiver must be patient and contain themselves.”
Why it will drive them wild: Visual eroticism is a powerful tool that can lead to an enhanced sensory experience as it means hyper-focusing on one of your senses.
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2. The royal throne
When giving and receiving cunnilingus, bear in mind that position is everything.
Dorian Solot, author of I Love Orgasms, A Guide To More (£16.99) suggests this: “The receiver slouches in an armchair, sofa or seat with a padded back. The giver sits on the floor or a footstool.”
Why it will drive them wild: “It’s easier for partners to see one another, since you are partly upright.” So, you can really watch each other’s faces and get off on each other’s pleasure.
3. The body slide
Give your partner a massage with a difference. Using oil or slippery Nuru Gel, massage oil on your partner and then yourself. “Then, perform sensual, slow body slides up and down their body with your body,” says Surch.
Why it will drive them wild: The experience is ‘two become one’ – “Two, warm, silky bodies entwined in passion... this will invite your brain to release all the feel-great hormones: serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin.”
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4. The ‘off limits’
We can put too much emphasis on intercourse when in reality, there’s so much more to sex. “Agreeing to set a temporary rule to do things differently can be a great motivation to explore,” suggests Kate Moyle, sexpert for LELO, a luxury sexual wellness brand.
“To do this, set a timer for 20 minutes and agree during this time not to touch the areas of the body normally associated with sex until the timer goes off.”
Why it will drive them wild: The waiting and patience needed is a real boost for desire and arousal.
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5. The pick n’ mix sensation
There are myriad ways you can add extra, sensory dimensions to your sex play, especially when it comes to going down on your partner. Solot has a few ideas: “Add zing to your lips and your partner’s nether regions by chewing on Altoids (very minty mints) sucking on ice beforehand, or sipping a warm liquid before going down.”
You could have a range of things – a pick 'n’ mix smörgåsbord, if you will – to hand. You could even blindfold them and then surprise them?
Why it will drive them wild: The element of surprise and variety alone, will majorly up the excitement factor.
6. Enhanced oral sex
“When giving your partner a blow job, drag your tongue up the vein along the back of the penis,” says Javay Frye-Nekrasova, sex educator for sexual wellness brand Lovehoney. “This can be tricky, but it is do-able. The key is going slow as you come back up. For some added oomph you can try humming at the same time or adding a small vibrator like the We-Vibe Tango X for added stimulation.”
Why it will drive them wild: This vein services oxygenated blood to the head of the penis so is extra-erogenous and sensitive.
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7. The peach melba
Cut a fresh peach in half and massage your/their yoni (the tantric word for vulva) with the peach. “This is a hugely erotic, wet and wild, juicy experience,” says Surch.
Why it will drive them wild: “The sweet-smelling, soft and juicy peach invites a fusion of vibrant and wild sensations that will engorge the yoni in unapologetic pleasure.”
8. The pleasure map
“Perform a body worship ritual on your partner that includes using feathers, ice, silks and breath,” suggests Surch. “Make a pleasure map of your partner’s body by asking them to score each technique between one to ten. Learn to understand what drives them wild and where.”
Why it will drive them wild: Experience a crescendo of orgasmic waves as the receiver revels in each different sensation journey.
