Are Beyoncé and Jay Z planning on letting Blue Ivy be at the birth of their twins?
Soon-to-be parents Beyoncé and Jay Z have come up with a novel way of involving their daughter Blue Ivy in the arrival of their twins by letting the 5-year-old be present at the birth.
According to the Daily Star on Sunday, the superstar duo want to ensure their eldest is involved in the lives of her new siblings right from the start in a bid to nip any jealousy in the bud.
“They’re worried that their daughter might feel left out when the twins arrive, so they’re trying to make sure she feels involved every step of the way,” a source told the Daily Star.
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But though it might sound like an unusual move Beyonce and Jay Z certainly aren’t the only celebrity parents who have allowed older siblings into the birthing room.
Announcing the arrival of his fifth child, River Rocket, on Instagram last year Jamie Oliver went on to reveal that his eldest daughters had been present at the birth of their little brother.
“My two eldest girls got to come in at the very end as the baby was born,” Oliver wrote alongside a picture of little River swaddled in a blanket, “which was amazing to witness…very, very emotional.”
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Later, Jools shared a photo of the baby breastfeeding on Instagram and added: “So very proud of our two eldest daughters who cut the cord”.
Though there is currently no UK data to reveal the number of parents who choose to allow elder siblings to be present at the birth of a new baby, some experts believe that more couples are opting for their children to be there.
“Birth is a normal life event and children are often involved in a pregnancy so carrying this on into labour can be quite natural,” explains Jacque Gerrard, Director for England at the Royal College of Midwives (RCM)
“It must be a decision for each family as children may express interest in seeing their baby brother or sister being born.”
When considering whether to involve siblings in a birth, Gerrard says that it is important that children feel they can come and go as they feel. “It can be easier in the home birth setting and quite normal in contrast to the hospital setting which can seem quite clinical and frightening for some children or teenagers,” he explains.
And Gerrard says that if the circumstances are properly considered there can be many benefits of children seeing their siblings be born. “If the children feel comfortable, if it happens in a prepared, loving and supportive environment it can be really positive and healthy. Cutting the umbilical cord is beautiful, and so positive in terms of the relationship with the new baby.”
Though having children present at the birth is not hugely common in the UK right now, Gerrard believes we could see an increase in that kind of birth set up.
“Given that we are trying to improve choice, if having children present is part of that choice, we should be supporting women. Birth is a family event, and it affects everyone. With the right support and preparation, why shouldn’t children be involved if they wish to be.”
Like Beyoncé, Izabela Minkiewicz, founder of Blue Almonds children’s boutique was keen to have her son present at the birth of her daughter to try and reduce feelings of jealousy.
“I always wanted Filip, my son, to be present at the birth of my daughter Matylda-Mia, as I felt it was important that we showed him we were a family and she was a new addition, not a replacement,” she explains.
“I’d heard lots of stories of older siblings acting out with a second child and was keen to try and prevent this happening.”
But though Filip didn’t show signs of feeling jealous of his little sister, Izabela says he did find aspects of the birth a bit distressing.
“He didn’t like the high-pitched cry newborns have, and was very unsure of her. He didn’t want to be in the same room at first. With some encouragement he calmed down, but was still uneasy,” she says.
Things improved once the family returned home. “They definitely bonded with more ease when we were at home and he could interact with her at his own pace. This was especially true when she was a few days older and could react to him a little more – grabbing his fingers and things.”
And even though Filip found certain aspects of the birth difficult to understand, Izabela has no regrets.
“I’m still glad of the way we did things, as for me and my husband it made us feel like a complete family, but I did not expect his reaction at all, and now I would definitely tell other new mums to prepare themselves.”
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