Millions Are Going Berserk Over The Design Of This Home That A Man Built For His Young Family

Imagine building something from the ground up; a lasting home for your family that you carved from a bare foundation into your dream home. Who wouldn't want to share the fruits of their labor online? Joseph Wilder, aka u/itsjoejoeyjoseph on Reddit, did just that, hoping it might inspire other homebuilders. He could not have anticipated the internet's response.

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His custom home went absolutely viral. Photos of the kitchen and bathroom interiors garnered over 8 million views in the first 48 hours and over 11,000 comments. Unfortunately, the comments weren't exactly singing the home's praise:

Comments from Reddit including an architect questioning design choice, someone is glad the owner likes his house and one says it looks like the house in beetlejuice

Here's the kitchen design that set the r/homebuilding community on fire:

Modern kitchen with dark wood cabinets, black and white marble countertops, and an island
Joseph Wilder

From the granite countertops to the cabinetry, the color palette, and even the sink, people had a LOT to say about this kitchen. Someone even commented, "The longer you look, the worse it gets." Others had equally despairing comments about the kitchen's style:

Reddit comments: A kitchen designer criticizes a kitchen, while another user suggests it resembles one designed in The Sims
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In the original post, homebuilder Joseph was adamant that the kitchen was his favorite part of the home, and the result perfectly fit his wife's and his tastes. Joseph told BuzzFeed, "The design choices came from our own interests and preferences. We wanted to create something that, when we look at it, feels both modern and rustic at the same time."

Modern kitchen with dark cabinets, marble countertop, and stainless steel faucet. Marble backsplash with bold veining complements the design
Joseph Wilder

He said he wanted the kitchen to be "calm and inviting but also vibrant and different. White doors with black hardware, cool white paint with gray undertones, and grey marble-look flooring were chosen for their simplicity and elegant feel."

Modern kitchen with sleek cabinets, black and white marble backsplash, and stainless steel appliances
Joseph Wilder

In the original post's description, Joseph mentioned that his father was a cabinet shop owner and that they had completed the home together. While his father's work may have eased in securing and installing cabinets, redditors were quick to pick apart their selection and design:

Reddit comments joking about cabinets, the first mentions designers; second loves cabinets; third references Oprah meme about cabinets
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I spotted at least 18 cabinets. Most city dwellers would kill for this amount of cabinet and storage space in their kitchens, but Joseph shared that the cabinets were "largely a visual choice rather than trying to maximize storage."

Modern kitchen with wood cabinets, marble countertops, stainless steel refrigerator, and large island. Recessed lighting and ceiling fan overhead
Joseph Wilder

Even with a hefty collection of tableware, tools, and kitchen gadgets — including a fondue pot, a wok, and a sous vide circulator — the design left room for a squatter: Joseph's son. "My 2-year-old son has claimed a few of the base cabinets, where he likes to keep some toys and play," he said.

A toddler explores a kitchen cabinet, holding a can, surrounded by various bowls and containers on the floor
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Other interior design choices also perplexed many, especially the stark contrast of the black-and-white countertop with cherry cabinetry.

Modern kitchen with dark cabinets and white counters. Comment below image reads, "Ah yes. Black and brown. Such a timeless combination."

People were divided on whether or not they liked the countertops. Many appreciated his unique choice of granite and the custom backsplash to match. Here are some of their more positive reactions:

Reddit comments: 1. Marble backsplash and counter are neat but not my style 2. Backslash and counters are awesome 3. Oreo cookies and cream is valid
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Many users also pointed out the seemingly random placement of more than a dozen recessed lights, with one commenting, "It looks like he installed them using a shotgun."

Modern kitchen with a large island, marble countertops, dark wood cabinets, marble backsplash, and recessed lighting. No people present

Joseph shared that the lights are multi-toned with amber-colored settings for evening mood lighting, so they don't always appear as cool and bright as they do in the photo above.

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Another feature of the kitchen people took issue with was the sink. Multiple faucets for a single basin made little sense to many commenters; one of whom said he was a plumber and remarked that he had never installed a sink like it.

Modern living room with a black and white marble countertop, dual faucets, gray sectional sofa, large wall-mounted TV, and indoor plants
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When I asked about the controversial dual faucet feature, Joseph had a heartwarming justification: cooking with his wife. "Whether it be cooking or doing dishes together, the dual faucets make it easier and more fun," he told me, "Multiple faucets allow us to be playful in the kitchen and spend more time together, even for something as mundane as prepping dinner or washing sippy cups."

A family of four happily prepares breakfast in the kitchen
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Joseph also included images of the bathroom in the original post, which users were quick to comment on. Their bathroom design is equally as one-of-a-kind as the kitchen:

Modern bathroom with blue cabinetry, dual sinks, and marble flooring. Black fixtures contrast with white countertops. Toilet located to the left

Overall, comments were kinder to this design:

Image with Reddit comments discussing a well-liked bathroom project, mentioning the nice bathroom and blue cabinets
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Some still had issues with it, though. One user pointed out the lack of "precious counter space" taken up by "yet MORE cabinets."

A modern bathroom with dual sinks, white marble countertops, and blue cabinets. There is a toilet and a large mirror with lights above
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Despite the most disparaging comments from the cabinet-haters, Joseph shared: "It was a neat feeling to watch pictures of my work get millions of views, and I was happy that I could share something that I created with my dad with so many people. I got a lot of messages from people telling me that they would have given anything to do something like this with their dad, so it really reinforced the sentiment I have behind this kitchen."

Two workers on scaffolding install a ceiling panel. One holds a drill, the other guides the panel into place. Tools are visible on a utility belt

"I was surprised that my post received so much attention, and I was intrigued by the controversy over my design," he continued. "All I could do was laugh and share with friends and family as the comments and views poured in."

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As far as the haters go, they haven't swayed Joseph out of loving his newly-built home. He told BuzzFeed, "The opinions of others do not easily sway me. When I like something, other people's opinions or preferences don't influence me. I’ve always had unconventional style preferences, whether it be the shoes on my feet, the paint job on my cars, or, in this case, the design of my house."

Modern kitchen with dark wood cabinets, marble countertops, and island
Joseph Wilder

Joseph was only 28 when he began building his home: "[My wife and I] were a few years into our engineering careers, with a lot of student loan debt. As unfortunate as COVID was, it resulted in a pause on student loan payments, allowing us to set aside the payment that eventually went toward the house build." By moving in with Joseph's dad while they built it, they were also able to put their saved rent money toward the home itself. "As crazy as it sounds," Joseph said, "just three years of set-aside student loan payments and 18 months of saved rent covered more than 50% of the home build."

A couple sits on a floor, embracing and looking out a large window toward a house and garden outside
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"It was absolutely worth it," he added. "Overall, we built a highly personalized home at a very low cost, especially compared to the cost of buying something similar. I put my blood, sweat, and tears into building this home for my family, which I will always be proud of."

A couple hugs and smiles in a construction area, surrounded by scaffolding
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Wilder shared his advice for homebuilders and those taking on DIY home improvement projects: "Don’t be afraid to be different. Do what makes you and your family happy. If the next person doesn’t like it, hopefully, they, too, will one day have the opportunity to make a home that's their own."

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What do you think of Joseph's one-of-a-kind home? Let me know in the comments!