Dating a Scorpio: How to Date the Notoriously Fiery Water Sign
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Well, it’s official! November 18 is National Dating A Scorpio Support Day. Even though we are magically drawn to the charisma and sensitivity of the mystical and captivating water sign, it can be difficult to navigate the waters at times. So, these are some pointers to help guide you to understanding Scorpios better. Now, you can slay at dating a Scorpio! You won’t slip and slide when dating them, but will be able to enjoy the all-consuming, intoxicating, and wild ride.
Why do Scorpios have such a bad reputation?
Every zodiac sign has its positives and negative qualities, but Scorpios get a kick out of people thinking they're scary. On the outside, Scorpios appear tough, but once you get to know them, the water sign is soft and tender.
Their bad reputation comes from mythology. Their two planetary rulers are Mars, who is the god of war, and Pluto, who is the god of the underworld. People fear Scorpios because they have edgier sentiments than the other signs. Plus, they’re super intuitive, so you can’t play them. And when a Scorpio is angry or upset, they’ll certainly plot their vengeance. Mostly, they’ll just zing whoever annoyed them, then move on like nothing ever happened.
Once you break through their hard shell, you'll realize that they are fantastic. Trust me, I know this all too well. I've dated and befriended many, and I come from a long line of Scorpios in my family. Plus, I’m a professional astrologer. Therefore, I'm an expert.
FYI: Scorpio season lasts from October 22 to November 22.
So, how do you survive dating a Scorpio? Like the mysterious and confounding fixed water sign, the answer isn’t simple.
How to date a Scorpio
Quit The Drama
The water sign doesn't have patience for drama (unless it’s their own), so avoid being extra or messy in their presence. Their answer and response to the theatrics brought into their lives is to leave those messages on read and to not deal. Scorpios aren’t afraid to block people that rock their sense of stability.
Let Them Take The Lead…Or Make Them Think They Are
Scorpios can be controlling and don't like surprises. It’s advisable to let them take the lead in making and organizing plans to neutralize that energy. Of course, you can make suggestions and give advice (only when they ask for it). Allow them to take credit for the ideas — even though they are yours.
Brush Off Their Sting
The sting of the scorpion can be deadly. Therefore, it’s important to know that Scorpios can react in the moment, but that doesn't mean they will stick with their emotions. They have fierce tempers, meaning they can lash out when poked. Try to give them space to calm down. Scorpios apologize after they chill out.
Keep It Cute
When texting or engaging with a Scorpio, make it short and sweet. Always leave them wanting more. Scorpios like to work towards building a bond. To do so, you have to peak their interest, which means remaining a mystery when first getting to know them. Scorpios like solving the puzzle and enigma that is you.
Respect Their Hustle
Ambition keeps the scorpion moving. Their drive to succeed in every aspect of life can lead to ruthless behavior, manipulative tactics, and power plays. Scorpios won't stop until they get what they want. It’s best to let them do their thing and support their journey — as long as it isn't harming anyone or you.
Why We Love Scorpios:
Even though Scorpios are brooding and intense, we still long and lust for them. Scorpios have amazing attributes that compel us to them. Here's why we love them.
They're Real
Being that Scorpios can read between the lines and suss out lies, they admire and respect authenticity. If they find out you’re hiding tea or changing pivotal details, your credibility will be on the line. It'll take a long time to get their trust back — if you ever do. Honesty is the best policy.
They Want To Grow With You
Scorpios encourage and accept change. They uphold faith in peeps who have proven that they can transcend and evolve into a better version of themselves. Unwavering love helps the water sign understand that people can transform if they do the work and want to — since Scorpios can do the same.
They’re Deep
Scorpio will go beyond matching your freak, passions, and deepness. The scorpion is not afraid to go to extremes and express themselves, making them the ultimate love bombers. The good news is that you don't have to hold back with a Scorpio. Like the waves of the ocean, It's best to keep emotions constantly flowing.
They’re Loyal AF
It wouldn't be surprising if Scorpio invented the term “ride or die” — considering it is their motto on friendship. They are loyal to those they care about and will defend their besties till the end — even if they’re wrong. It's easy to count on Scorpio because they've got your back no matter what.
They Fight For What They Want
Once a Scorpio makes a decision, it’s extremely challenging for them to sway their opinion. This fixed vibe urges them to fight for what they desire most, no matter the consequences. As long as it's in their heart and on their mind, they’ll courageously perservere and won't give up until they attain their objective.
Originally Appeared on Teen Vogue
