"I Was Spending $100k A Year On Her": 14 Jaw-Dropping Confessions From A 45-Year-Old Sugar Daddy
Recently, a man on Reddit who says he's a 45-year-old sugar daddy hosted an AMA where he invited users to ask him literally anything about his experience, and the conversation was a fascinating peek inside a lifestyle most people will never experience.
For background on his situation, he wrote:
"I am a personal injury attorney. I work non-stop and don't have time for a traditional relationship. My first sugar baby started as a regular relationship and morphed when I started making serious money and she needed help with tuition. She was my submissive sugar baby for two years. Eventually, she graduated and was moving, but she introduced me to her friend who needed help with tuition.
My second sugar baby was my submissive baby for four years. After my second sugar baby graduated, she introduced me to my third.
My third sugar baby decided to stay after undergrad and was with me through medical school. When she graduated, she moved out of state to do her residency. She didn't have any friends needing help to introduce me to. I am still friends with all three. My goal was always to make their lives better, and I think I did.
By the end of my last sugar baby's time with me, I was spending $100,000 a year on her."
Then, he spent time answering some very interesting questions about his life as a sugar daddy. Here's what he had to say:
1.Q: How did you find your sugar babies?
A: Luck. My first sugar baby I met shortly after becoming a lawyer. I met her at a college bar. I was a little older, but not a ton. We dated for a little while, but romantically not a good fit. But the sex was phenomenal. As I started to make money, I started helping her with tuition. I was going to end things one night, and she begged me not to. She offered to be my submissive slave if I continued to pay for her college. I didn't like the idea of 'slave,' but submissive appealed to me. Did some research and started learning about the sugar lifestyle.
As the post said, she introduced me to my second, who introduced me to my third. All from the same sorority.
2.Q: Have you ever grown attached or at least have feelings with them? I know you don’t have much time for traditional relationships, but you know the length of supporting them must have had some kind of growth inside of you, feelings-wise. If yes, how did you deal with/control it?
A: I fell pretty hard for the last one, but she was honest from the start that we had a hard end date of her medical school graduation.
3.Q: Do you have many friends, if at all? And if you do, do they use you for your money like your sugar babies?
A: I don't believe my sugar babies use me, per se. Not any more than any relationship uses another person. We are all trying to get something from the people in our lives. Even if that is just companionship or love.
I have lots of friends. Most have money.
4.Q: Do you ever get lonely? They were with you for the money I assume it'd be depressing by some point.
A: A good sugar relationship is about more than money. Yes, I paid her tuition and gave her an allowance. But I also mentored her. Spent time with her at fundraisers and networking events. Called her for support when I had a rough day. Supported her when she had a death in the family. Every sugar relationship is different. My last was the deepest. But all three were real. But I know others who basically have a regular escort.
5.Q: So, they were virtually a normal relationship with you supporting them? Did either of you see other people?
A: We were both exclusive. Yes, close to a real relationship. But they were younger. They were looking for help with school. I was looking for drama-free. They understood that I would disappear for weeks for trials. They never complained. They would block off time for school. Anything outside the blocked-off time they were available to me.
6.Q: Why do you chose much younger women? Why not women closer to your age?
A: I have no age restrictions on my women. My first sugar baby was only a few years younger than me. Then, each one after was introduced to me when they were in college. But if a beautiful woman closer to my age had goals I could help her accomplish and wanted to sugar, I would do it enthusiastically.
7.Q: Did you ever go out in public and have dinners, hang out, go see a movie, see a ball game, shop, or do normal girlfriend stuff? Or were these relationships strictly hidden behind closed doors?
A: Yes, we went in public a lot. To the world, we were dating. They attended fundraisers and networking events with me regularly. I also took them shopping a lot.
8.Q: What was the agreement like? Whenever you felt horny, you call her up and fuck? Or was there emotional intimacy involved where you would just call her and talk about your day, your troubles, and vice versa?
A: They gave me a schedule for school every week. It included class time and study time. Inside that schedule, I would never contact them. Outside that schedule, if I wanted to see them, they were available for whatever. Sometimes, that means a spa date with shopping and a fundraiser. Sometimes it means a quick blowjob to release steam. They were always available to talk and support me emotionally. I tried to do the same, but they understood that work came first.
9.Q: Did it ever bother you that you’re using each other? Did it ever bother you that she might be fucking another guy or secretly dating another guy behind your back? I couldn’t imagine trust ever being a part of the equation with relationships like this.
A: Every relationship has some elements of using each other. We built trust, just like every other relationship.
10.Q: How much would you pay? What was the setup? Just curious.
A: I paid tuition and books. A tutor, if necessary, on any subject.
Free rent in one of my rentals.
Free leased vehicle.
Monthly allowance.
Regular trips, travel, shopping.
11.Q: How deep did these relationships get? Or was it just purely sexual?
A: Pretty deep. I still talk to and mentor all three of them.
12.Q: Do you think if you lost your income, your sugar baby would still show interest in you? You mentioned it's about more than money, but I can't get past the fact everything else you mentioned would not be so without the money first.
A: If the sugar stops on one side, the sugar stops on the other. I am not blind. But that doesn't mean you stop caring about the other person. I haven't slept with my first sugar baby in over a decade. I still consider her family. She hasn't received money from me in a decade. She still calls weekly.
13.Q: What kind of woman are you looking for? Or what are you looking for in a woman?
A: I typically look for beautiful women who have goals in life that I can help them achieve. A way in which my money and mentorship can help them improve, not just on a superficial level, but on a meaningful level.
14.Q: Do you think you’ll ever want a traditional relationship?
A: Maybe. Once I have more time, and can commit to putting my partner first. That just isn't something I can do working as much as I work.
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