Couple Welcomes First Baby — Then Both Sets of Grandparents Tell Them to Change the Name

The couple's parents have joined together in arguing for a new name

A couple who recently had their first child are now arguing with both sets of grandparents who don't like the name they chose, and would prefer they rename the baby.

In a post shared on Reddit, a woman writes that she and her husband "chose a name that our families weren't thrilled about."

The name, "Wren," is one the parents loved. But, a couple of days after the birth, the woman's parents "told me they had the name Dorothy saved for a daughter after me and when I was 2 they miscarried a baby and called her Dorothy in their hearts."

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"They told me Dorothy would be a lovely name and Dorothy Wren didn't sound terrible so wouldn't that be a nice way to honor the baby who should have been my sibling," she adds in the post.

A couple of days after that, her husband's parents also chimed in, telling the couple they, too, wanted the child to be named "Dorothy," instead of "Wren."

"My [in-laws] were helped a lot by an old elderly neighbor when they first got married and her name was Dorothy and they always considered that name for a girl, but they had all boys," the woman continues. "Both sets of parents said it was like a message being sent and it would be the perfect name for our daughter."

She and her husband, however, have pushed back.

"The parents asked me to consider it as the mom and I said no, that my husband and I chose the name we feel is right for our daughter and we have zero regrets," she writes.

Now, both sets of grandparents are upset, telling the couple that they should follow "conventions of the past" by allowing them to weigh in on the name.

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Commenters say the couple needs to set firm boundaries.

"This is the time to set boundaries and make it clear YOU and your husband are the parents, they don't get that kind of say in things when it comes to YOUR children," writes one commenter on Reddit. "I would simply tell them 'Our daughter already has a name, we're not changing it, and we will not be discussing it anymore.' "

Added another commenter: "if they don't like it, they don't have to get grandparents privileges."