Woman Cancels Trip with Boyfriend After His Ex-Wife Decides to Join: 'I Told Him to Pick'

A woman writes that her boyfriend's ex "invited herself along on a holiday ... claiming it’s a once-in-a-lifetime experience," adding: "It’s not. It's Disney."

A woman is going viral after sharing that she's cancelled a planned trip with her boyfriend after his ex-wife decided to tag along.

In a post shared to Reddit, the anonymous, 33-year-old woman writes that she has been with her boyfriend for five years and that both have daughters from previous relationships.

"When my daughter is with her Dad, I stay with my BF as he has his daughter 90% of the time," she writes, adding, "We don’t reside together but have a loving, supportive and easy relationship."

Her boyfriend and his ex-wife (whom she calls "Susie" in the post) also "have a very positive and friendly relationship," she adds.

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"For the first 4+years of our relationship, I admired and respected their coparenting arrangement," she continues. "It took some getting used to for me as she would walk into house unannounced and unexpected, make herself comfortable, often with friends in tow to spend the day by the pool or hang out on the deck."

Her boyfriend, she writes, is "very non confrontational," and "set no boundaries" with his ex, "as it allowed him to parent his daughter consistently."

Issues began to crop up around six months ago, though, when Susie's presence "increased significantly."

"She will invite herself for supper and along on activities we’ve planned with the girls, she will call BF numerous times a day, unrelated to their daughter," the Redditor writes. "He won’t answer when we are together but it’s still aggravating because she’ll then call their daughter to get his attention."

While the poster writes that she has tried to remain unbothered, things changed with the ex "invited herself along on a holiday we planned for our girls, claiming it’s a once-in-a-lifetime experience."

"It’s not," the woman writes, adding that the trip is to a place the ex has traveled before: "it's Disney and she took her daughter there 2 years ago when she was still with her partner."

She continues: "I told my BF that he needs to tell Susie that she’s not coming and he is uncomfortable about 'rocking the boat' and her seeking more time with their daughter as he doesn’t feel she is stable enough to provide consistency or stability. He’s probably not wrong but I am not interested in spending my vacation with his ex wife so told him to pick. AITA or are my feelings valid?"

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Now, the woman wants to know if commenters believe her feelings are "valid."

Overwhelmingly, commenters are urging the woman to reevaluate her relationship, with one writing, "He needs to either get back with ex or go solo until his daughter is 18 if that’s how he chooses to handle things."

Another added: "He is basically letting her have own way on everything, even dictating your life, just for fear that she might lash out if he dared to disagree with her on anything. And this is how you are going to live the rest of your life, dependent on her whims? Sounds like she knows exactly what she's doing."

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