Dating an Aquarius man? Here's everything you need to know
Astrology can help us understand more about ourselves and the people we love/date/hopelessly crush on — no matter their gender. For more deets on Aquarius compatibility, check out our guide to dating an Aquarius woman and our gender-neutral guide to dating an Aquarius.
There are just a few basics that need to be explored when you first start dating someone. Where is he from? What does he do for a living? Oh, and most definitely, when’s his birthday? This isn’t just for remembering when to send that “happy b-day :)” text! Knowing a potential partner's zodiac sign can really help in understanding his behaviour. Astrology helps us break down personality traits, pet peeves, and, yes, even dating patterns. It can be fun and informative to look up his sign and see how yours works with his (aka compatibility).
If you’re dating, Insta sleuthing (hi, guilty), or just fantasising over an Aquarius man, we’re here to help you navigate him. These water bearers are sometimes seen as aloof loners, but they really just value their me-time and march to the beat of their own drum.
First, a little bit more about Sun signs. Your Sun sign is determined by where the Sun was in the sky when you were born. It's your "main" zodiac sign, the one that you answer when people ask "What's your sign?" In astrology, it represents your core identity and life path. You also have a whole birth chart, describing where the Moon and all the planets were when you were born — plus various points in the sky like your Rising sign, aka the zodiac sign that was on the horizon when you were born. You might find it helpful to read this guide to get more info about a man with a Aquarius Moon, Aquarius Rising, or other significant Aquarius placements, even if his Sun sign isn't Aquarius — and of course, this is a super helpful guide to understanding Aquarius Suns, too. Basically, if he's got ~Aquarius vibes~, read on...
The Aquarius basics
Birthday: 20th January to 18th February
Modality: Fixed
Element: Air
Ruling planet: Saturn (traditional) and Uranus (modern)
Represented by: The water bearer
Tarot card: The Star
Best crystals: Morganite, sunstone, sodalite, amethyst, sapphire
Rules this body part: Shins, calves, ankles, and circulatory system
Keywords: Friendly, unique, geeky, intellectual, complex, offbeat, humanitarian, aloof, smart, one-of-a-kind
Best traits: Creative, caring, intelligent
Worst traits: Stubborn, closed-off, cold
Love anthem: 'Adore You,' by Harry Styles
Watch this romance movie together: Her (2013), directed by Spike Jonze
Famous Aquarius men: Harry Styles, Michael B. Jordan, Michael Jordan, The Weeknd, Maluma, Khalid, Justin Timberlake, Cristiano Renaldo, Chris Rock, Tom Hiddleston, Ed Sheeran, J-Hope, Gucci Mane, Tom Hiddleston, Evan Peters, Billie Joe Armstrong, J. Cole, Avan Jogia, Kid Cudi, Darren Criss, Ashton Kutcher, Taylor Lautner, Joseph Gordon-Levitt, Elijah Wood, Christian Bale, Joseph Quinn, Charlie Heaton
An Aquarius man's best traits
Here's the thing about an Aquarius man: He makes you feel comfortable. He has major best friend energy! You'll always have fun together, and he knows how to make you feel at home. And there's a lot to like about him, too: He's creative, smart, and tapped into social causes. Aquarius is sometimes described as "a rebel with a cause" because he's so passionate about whatever the movement close to his heart is — whether it's his labour union or his neighbourhood community garden.
An Aquarius man's worst raits
It might seem contradictory, but even though Aquarius makes you feel at home, he can sometimes struggle to open up. He can be guarded and standoffish, especially with people he doesn't know very well. And, well, he isn't the most in touch with his emotions — he's an intellectual air sign, not a sensitive water sign, after all. At his worst, an Aquarius man can seem like a bit of a robot. Oh, and that "rebel with a cause" thing — standing up for something you care about is a great trait, but sometimes Aquarius could learn to choose his battles.
The best matches for an Aquarius man
Aquarius gets along great with Gemini and Libra. They are both air signs and can keep up with each other’s mental pace. As they’re the same element, they “speak the same language” — basically, they just ~get~ each other. Gemini encourages Aquarius to be more playful, while Libra brings out Aquarius’s social side.
Aries is another awesome match for Aquarius. Aquarius is endlessly fascinating to passionate Aries, so the fire sign’s interest is never lost. They both appreciate uniqueness and understand the other’s need for space. Similarly, Aquarius is fascinated by another fire sign, Sagittarius. Both Sag and Aqua are fiercely independent and dedicated to learning, although Sag tends to be much more impulsive than calm, cool, and collected Aquarius.
Yet another fire sign, outgoing Leo has an opposites-attract style chemistry with Aquarius — they’re opposites on the zodiac wheel, in fact. Leo encourages Aquarius to stand out, while Aquarius teaches Leo the importance of community.
And finally, who’s a better match for Aquarius than a fellow Aquarius? With their brainpower and offbeat interests combined, these two will never get bored.
The worst matches for an Aquarius man
Aquarius is a fixed sign, which means they’re loyal, independent, and stubborn as hell…not exactly a recipe for getting along with the two other notoriously stubborn fixed signs, Taurus and Scorpio. There’s just too much fixed energy here! (Leo is also a fixed sign but is more of a complement to Aquarius.)
That said, having incompatible Sun signs doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed — it just means you might have to put in a little work to really ~get~ each other. And compatibility is about so much more than your Sun sign anyway, so if your Moon signs or another part of your birth charts mesh well, you might be an astrologically blessed match anyway.
But even if your birth chart is full of Taurus placements, if you make an effort to understand your Aquarius partner — and vice versa — you can have a great relationship too. And TBH, ~astrological tension~ can often lead to ~sexual tension~, so there’s something to be said for “incompatibility”!
Sex with an Aquarius man
As the zodiac sign most associated with science and technology, you know that an Aquarius man has an extensive collection of sex toys and sexcessories, and maybe a fondness for virtual reality porn as well. As the innovators of the zodiac, Aquariuses are always down to try something new in bed - in fact, they would prefer it. Repetition is boring!
Your Aquarius man is also likely a little kinky, especially if it involves ~exploring the taboo~ or creating some sexy distance between you, like role playing that you're two strangers, or wearing a blindfold. But honestly, whatever kink strikes your interest, there's no better sign than Aquarius to try it out with!
A first date with an Aquarius man
Your Aquarius man wants you to know that he’s ~not like other boys~. He’s edgy! He’s a nonconformist! He doesn’t want to see a movie and have dinner together, he wants to...take a ride in a hot-air ballon! Sew patches on your denim jackets together! Go get spontaneous tattoos! Treat your Aquarius man like the rebel he (thinks he) is, and he’ll be happy. The weirder and more out-there your date suggestion, the better.
A relationship with an Aquarius man
Hopefully, once you've made it to the defining the relationship point, you know that your Aquarius man isn't as cold or standoffish as he might seem sometimes — he just needs a lot of independent time to be alone with his thoughts. Of course, he also values spending a ton of time with you — especially if you put it to good use, whether you're playing a video game together, checking out an art exhibit, or getting kinky in bed. Aquarius is totally fine staying home, but he hates doing nothing.
An Aquarius man in love
Aww, how...sweet! Your Aquarius cutie discovered a new scientific element and named it after you, or patented a paint shade that's the exact colour of your eyes, or founded a scholarship in your name. He doesn't go the usual roses and chocolates route to show his love, that's for sure, but hopefully at this point you ~get him~ and his offbeat gestures mean a whole lot more.
An Aquarius man at home
You might think an Aquarius’s home would be full of skulls and circuit boards, but these dudes are actually pretty minimalist. Like, their home probably reminds you of an Apple Store... but with a big, comfy bed perfect for trying out complicated sex positions. Check out his bookshelf or record or DVD collection, though, and you’ll get some insight into his interests and personality.
An Aquarius man at the office
Aquarius can be kind of a loner at work, but everyone is in awe of their *amazing* ideas. Seriously, it’s like they walk around with a lightbulb permanently over their head. Even though sometimes their suggestions are a little, um, offbeat, Aquarius always comes up with something creative. He's always the innovator!
An Aquarius man with friends
Aquarius can be a bit guarded, so he likely only has a few besties that he *really* lets in....even if he has a wide circle of admiring acquaintances. In fact, as an air sign, Aquarius is naturally social, but they’re happiest when they’re socialising for a cause. Think: Being active in their local mutual aid group, rather than going out to happy hour.
An Aquarius man's sense of style
An Aquarius man's fashion sense is likely to fit one of two extremes... either he hardly ever thinks about clothes and has a "uniform" he wears every day, or he's endlessly creative with fashion and always trying out (or setting!) a new trend, like famous Aquarians Harry Styles and Gucci Mane.
Travelling with an Aquarius man
Aquarius loves travelling, but he doesn't want to go somewhere that his friends have gone before. He does not want to go to Paris! And if he does go to Paris, he does not want to see the Eiffel Tower! His dream vacay might be somewhere like the Galapagos Islands, a place with such diverse wildlife that it was instrumental in inspiring Darwin's theory of evolution.
A gift for an Aquarius man
Get your Aquarius man a gift that will stimulate ~his mind~. Tech gadgets are always a good bet, as is a book about whatever his current favourite topic is (crypto? ska? urban gardening?). A donation to a cause close to his heart will also endear you to him. And hey, you can’t go wrong with an experiential gift, like signing up for a class together or planning a weekend vacay.
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