This woman's story of why she's grateful for her miscarriage will stay with you

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An unused pregnancy test [Photo: Dominic Lipinski/PA Wire]
An unused pregnancy test [Photo: Dominic Lipinski/PA Wire]

It’s one of the few remaining taboo subjects in society, and for any number of reasons, people are still hesitant to talk about miscarriages.

Whether it’s because we don’t know how to react, what the right response is or we just don’t like uncomfortable situations, miscarriages are avoided as a conversation topic unless it’s truly necessary.

Which is why it’s so encouraging to see a woman speak openly about her experience – and even more so, because somehow she has turned it into a positive one.

Two weeks after Shelly Mettling realised she was pregnant, she sadly lost her baby. She went through all of the normal emotions – sadness, anger, frustration and more, before realising something important.

“I’m grateful that I got to experience the bond that a woman feels the instant she finds out she is growing a little human in her belly” Shelly wrote in a heartfelt Instagram post.

“I’m grateful I got to feel the love I was capable of feeling/giving to someone that I had never even met!

“I’m grateful for the fact that God gave me this experience to test my strength!” she continued.

The Last 72 Hours… UGH <– realistically the only word that truly describes the Emotions! 2 weeks ago We found out we were growing our Family to 3… We were Excited, Nervous, and Extremely Grateful! Today is a bit different…As We lay here losing something we prayed so damn hard for I can’t help but be Angry, Emotional, Sad, Confused, and Frustrated! But the one Feeling I am holding onto from 2 weeks prior… GRATEFUL! I’m grateful that I got to Feel (even for a short time) the power of Motherhood! I’m grateful that I got to Experience the bond that a woman feels the instant she finds out she is growing a little human in her belly! I’m grateful I got to Feel the Love I was capable of feeling/giving to someone that I had never even met! I’m grateful for the Fact that God Gave me this Experience to test my strength! I’m Grateful for the Family and Friends that have been checking in on me and lifting me up when I’ve been So Knocked down it’s hard to visualize standing again! I’m grateful I have a platform to share my story to help others who have made room in their own hearts for someone special they too never got to meet! I’m grateful for the mindset I’ve been working on daily the past 2 years and the fact that through all this Pain I’m able to still see that there is purpose in all this madness! I’m Sad, I’m Heartbroken, I’m torn to pieces But I’m Grateful! Because… “A Grateful Heart is a magnet for miracles” and Life still has a lot of those in store for me! #ForeverInMyHeart #AlwaysGrateful #miscarriage #Blessed

A post shared by Shelly Mettling (@shellymettling) on Aug 29, 2017 at 4:23pm PDT

Shelly also highlighted the fact that many people think as soon as soon as the initial distress has passed, so will the pain.

In another post she wrote: “[People say] ‘You’ve Lost your Baby’ The hard part is over, right? WRONG!

“I’m about to get raw & real… not because I feel comfortable to but because I think it’s important for all the other woman (the 1/4) to hear.

“We’ve endured one of the most emotionally and sometimes physically painful thing we could ever endure as a female and although it’s “Over” it’s NEVER REALLY Over!”

“You’ve Lost your Baby” The hard part is over, right? WRONG! I’m about to get Raw & Real… not because I feel comfortable to but because I think it’s important for All the Other Woman (the 1/4) to hear. We’ve endured one of the most Emotionally and Sometimes Physically painful thing we could ever Endure as a Female and although it’s “Over” it’s NEVER REALLY Over! Now… We scroll our Facebooks where it seems to be that EVERY other Couple has a Mom & Dad Coffee Mug with little booties in between… INSERT KNIFE TO THE ❤️ HERE We Go on a Walk to clear our Minds only to see a Mom walking with her New Born Baby in the adorable little stroller we pinned to our Pinterest board just a few weeks prior… INSERT KNIFE TO THE ❤️ HERE We Turn on the TV to Watch our Fav Show “Friends” to only see it’s the one where Rachel Gets Pregnant… INSERT KNIFE TO THE ❤️ HERE We Receive a package in the Mail with the T shirt we were going to use to So Excitedly Announce our Pregnancy to the World…INSERT KNIFE TO THE ❤️ HERE We get invited to a Baby Shower that just so Happens to be the day we had our first Ultrasound scheduled to hear the heartbeat of our Baby that we Now have to call and Cancel… INSERT KNIFE TO THE ❤️ HERE and On Top of it all… WE FEEL Ashamed For Feeling angry at all the Happiness & Love that Surrounds us from the things listed above! It’s Not Over! It will Never be Over! We will always carry this Pain! and we will always feel Powerless about the situation that occurred! And although we can’t control What Happened we can control how we handle it! Personally I plan on handling it with Purpose… Sharing my story Being public about my feelings Digging into the Real & Raw Emotions Why??? I HAVE NO IDEA HONESTLY lol Maybe it’s a Coping Mechanism or Maybe it’s my Destiny but I can’t help but imagine that something EXTREMELY POWERFUL can come out of Something that Feels So EXTREMELY POWERLESS! #AngelBaby #ForeverInOurHeart #MommyToBe #futuremommy

A post shared by Shelly Mettling (@shellymettling) on Aug 31, 2017 at 10:47am PDT

Shelly’s determination to carry on and not let anything get her down is something we should all remember. Because, as she puts it: “I am ok, I am happy, and I’m still super MF high on life because damnit I only get one and I’m not gunna waste it Not even for a Second!!! [sic]”

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