Grandparents Try to Convince Couple to Change Baby's Name — Now Family Holidays Are in Jeopardy

A woman on Reddit writes that her husband's family has a tradition "where each generation alternates the grandparents' names for first and middle names"

• A woman on Reddit is at a loss after her in-laws have been urging her to give her newborn son a different name

• While the family has a tradition of using certain names, she and her husband decided to choose their own

• The new mom says that now, the family has been so torn apart that Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner are in limbo

After a woman's in-laws attempted to convince her to change her child's name, Christmas and Thanksgiving are now in jeopardy.

In a post shared to Reddit, the anonymous 26-year-old woman says that she and her husband's parents have always been close — but that changed with the birth of their son in June.

Writing that her in-laws "have a tradition where each generation alternates the grandparents' names for first and middle names," the woman adds: "My husband's middle name is his grandfather's first name. [Father-in-law] has his grandfather's first name as a first name."

Never miss a story — sign up for PEOPLE's free daily newsletter to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.

Related: New Mom Says She Won't Discuss Baby's Name with Family Because They 'Don't Think It's a Real Name'

In order to keep the tradition alive, the couple's son was "meant to have the father-in-law's name as his first name. Or this is what my [in-laws] hoped for."

"But my husband and I wanted to choose names that we liked," she adds, noting that her husband "actually hated his name."

So, she and her husband chose a name for their son that her in-laws "didn't like or approve of which made the whole thing more tense."

"They spent weeks trying to convince us to change it and my husband shielded me from hearing most of it, but I was still aware he was experiencing their attempts on a pretty much daily basis," she writes. "He ended up blocking them from our phones for a temporary period. He calmed down and told them they were not to bring it up again and he was not going to tolerate them pressuring me."

Eventually, the in-laws calmed down — until the first time they met the baby in person, when "they brought it up again and said they wanted us both to hear them express why they were so upset."

Related: New Mom Refuses to Change Baby Name After Partner's Sister Asks If She Can Take It

"My husband told them no. Then his family mentioned Thanksgiving and Christmas. We were supposed to host and they brought up how awkward it would be with tension lingering. My husband said they're right so we won't host or join them this year because it wouldn't be good for me or our son," she continues.

Now, the woman writes that she feels torn — the in-laws continue "begging" both her and her husband to host the holiday dinners, but she feels "worried they will turn it into two miserable experiences when I'm still not at my best."

"I don't want it to turn into family holidays where everyone talks about how much they hate the name and how we made the wrong choice," she adds. "But a part of me feels guilty for my stance because we don't have another extended family and we got along so good before this."

Reddit commenters overwhelmingly side with the new mom, with one writing, "As a Grandparent too, I agree. It’s not our decision, it’s the parents and we should be there for love and support. Nothing else."

Another suggested that the woman and her husband host a test-run ahead of the big family holidays, writing, "You could try a test before Thanksgiving by having some of the family over for dinner. Make sure they know topics not to be discussed and see if they can abide. This would give you an idea of how Thanksgiving would go without doing all the work required for that big meal."

For more People news, make sure to sign up for our newsletter!

Read the original article on People.