Dating a Scorpio man? Here's everything you need to know
There are just a few basics that need to be explored when you first start dating someone. Where is he from? What does he do for a living? Oh, and most definitely, when’s his birthday? This isn’t just for remembering when to send that “happy b-day :)” text! Knowing a potential partner's zodiac sign can really help in understanding his behaviour. Astrology helps us break down someone's personality deets, pet peeves, best traits, worst traits, and, yes, even dating patterns. It can be fun and informative to look up his sign and see how yours works with his.
If you’re dating, Insta-sleuthing (hi, guilty), or just fantasising over a Scorpio man, we’re here to help you navigate one of the most mysterious signs. These complex beings are intense, deep, and sexy AF — but they can be so secretive that it’s sometimes hard to figure them out.
Luckily, astrology allows us to decipher personality traits, pet peeves, and so much more. And trust me when I say there is sooo much more to a Scorpio man than you initially realised. In fact, they might be the most guarded signs of the zodiac. These lil scorpions are DEEP.
So if your guy was born between 23rd October and 21st November, you’re in for a treat. Scorpios make life (and sex) feel incredible, but as it goes with any sign, there are some things you may want to keep an eye out for.
First, a birth chart calculator
Not sure if your partner/crush is really a Scorpio? Put their bday into this birth chart calculator to make sure:
This birth chart calculator was created by www.astro-seek.com in collaboration with astrologer Narayana Montúfar. Learn more about Narayana's work on her website www.naramon.com.
The Scorpio basics
Birthday: 23rd October to 21st November
Modality: Fixed
Element: Water
Ruling planet: Mars (traditional) and Pluto (modern)
Represented by: The scorpion
Tarot card: Death
Best crystals: Topaz, lapis lazuli, bloodstone, diamond, ruby, malachite
Keywords: Intense, passionate, emotional, secretive, sexual, sensual, deep, vengeful, guarded, loyal, scary
Love anthem: 'Without Me,' by Halsey
Famous Scorpio men: Frank Ocean, Mark Ruffalo, Jimmy Kimmel, Michael Strahan, Adam Driver, Leonardo DiCaprio, Drake, Ryan Reynolds, Penn Badgley, Sean Combs, Ryan Gosling, Odell Beckham Jr., French Montana, Penn Badgley
A Scorpio man's best traits
Scorpio has a bit of a bad reputation, but there's a lot to love about a Scorpio man! He might seem guarded at first, but once you earn his trust, you'll see a whole different side to him. When he's in, he's all in. He's loyal, passionate, creative, and surprisingly romantic. Think: Candles, rose petals, the whole deal. His powerful intuition means that he can always sense when you're in a bad mood and knows just what to do to cheer you up. In fact, he's got quite a memory for all your favourite things! And if someone wrongs you, he'll always have your back...and he'll help you get back at them, too.
A Scorpio man's worst traits
Can you say jealous? Scorpios are notoriously grudge-holding...and they tend to have a lil bit of a possessive streak. And despite these stingers, Scorps are one of the most sensitive zodiac signs on the inside. Plus, Scorpios can get a little bit obsessive...and paranoid...about things. Add this all together and you get a date who might start monitoring which photos you're liking on Instagram, trying to sneak a peek at your text messages, you get the picture. If you get in a fight, Scorpios will bring up resentments from ages ago they've been holding onto all this time. Oh, and if you do break up...yeah, you'll probably never hear from him again. Scorpios don't do second chances.
Best matches for a Scorpio man
Scorpio and Cancer
The absolute best match for a Scorpio is fellow water sign Cancer. There’s natural compatibility between signs of the same element, and both signs are huge on trust and intimacy.
Scorpio and Pisces
Likewise, Scorpio and water sign Pisces get along incredibly. Both are deep thinkers with powerful intuition — it’s like they can read each other’s minds.
Scorpio and Virgo
Virgos are also great matches for Scorpio as well. No other sign is as dedicated as a Virgo is to their lover, and when Scorpio recognises how devoted his Virgo lover is, it creates a super-tight bond.
Scorpio and Taurus
Taurus — Scorpio’s zodiac opposite — has a focus on pleasure that Scorpio will love, and the bull can also teach Scorpio to be a little more practical.
Scorpio and Gemini
Occasionally, a Gemini might also catch a Scorpio’s eye —they don’t have much in common, but they’re so different that they’re fascinated by each other.
The worst matches for a Scorpio man
Scorpio and Leo
Scorpios sometimes have a hard time vibing with Leos. Scorpios tend to be more private and secretive, while Leo is just so outgoing — it’s easy for Leo to get suspicious of Scorpio and for Scorpio to get annoyed by all of Leo’s energy.
Scorpio and Aquarius
For a different reason, Scorpio and Aquarius might butt heads. Intellectual Aquarius is all mind, while Scorpio is all feelings. Aquarius might think Scorpio takes things too personally and is overdramatic, while Scorpio might see Aquarius as cold or unfeeling.
BTW, if you're incompatible...
That said, having incompatible Sun signs doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed — it just means you might have to put in a little work to really ~get~ each other. And compatibility is about so much more than your Sun sign anyway, so if your Moon signs or another part of your birth charts mesh well, you might be an astrologically blessed match anyway.
But even if your birth chart is Aquarius all the way down, if you make an effort to understand your Scorpio partner — and vice versa — you can have a great relationship too. And TBH, ~astrological tension~ can also lead to ~sexual tension~, so there’s something to be said for “incompatibility”!
Sex with a Scorpio man
Sex with a Scorpio is a life-changing experience. These scorpions take sex very seriously — it’s a full-body, full-mind, full-spirit experience. They’re likely to suggest new kinks and sex toys to explore, and they may be into BDSM or other kinds of power play. Whatever they’re into, they’ll take their time doing it — make sure you block out the whole evening for your Scorpio lover.
Scorpios also love a “secret,” so they might want to play with an app-controlled sex toy in public (discreetly!). They’ll also love it if you send ’em a photo of the lingerie you’re wearing (or not wearing…) under your clothes before you actually meet up. Also, oral sex and sex toys are some of their favourite things.
BTW: Scorpios have an acute sense of smell, so at the very least, make sure that you shower before you see them. And if you’re trying to impress them, wear a one-of-a-kind perfume, cologne, or essential oil. Scorpios are suckers for a ~signature scent~.
A relationship with a Scorpio man
A Scorpio man will keep you at arm's length until he feels like he fully knows you, trusts you, and is comfortable around you...and then once he hits that point, whether it takes a week or a year, things get deep, fast. Like, writing poetry for you, getting a tattoo of your name, suggesting you run away to Las Vegas and elope. Hope you're ready!
A date with a Scorpio man
A Scorpio man really wants to get to know you...without any distractions. So skip the crowded bar or noisy restaurant and take him somewhere a little more...private. That could be a romantic picnic in the park, an ~intimate~ night stargazing, or even a nice meal in your home. The most important thing is to create an environment where you and your Scorpio can have a very personal, intense conversation without being interrupted by anyone...and okay, so you can get physical in private too.
A Scorpio man at home
A Scorpio's home is their sanctuary, and they don't just invite anyone there. In fact, it might take a Scorpio a few dates...or months...to invite you to see their pad. They're not messy or anything, they're just private like that! When you do finally get to see their home, trust that a Scorpio's place will be vibe-y. Think candles, mood lighting, and plenty of plants.
A Scorpio man at work
Your Scorpio coworker tends to keep to himself. You might overlook him, but then, seemingly out of nowhere, he'll offer a brilliant insight in the middle of a meeting, or ask just the right question on Slack. See, Scorpios are perceptive and intuitive, but they don't exactly live for the spotlight. If you get to know your Scorpio coworker, they'll have all the best work gossip...but you've really got to earn their trust first.
A Scorpio man with friends
Scorpios tend to take a "quality over quantity" approach to friendships. Your Scorpio guy probably has a few closer-than-close friends — probably at least one of whom he's known since primary school — rather than a wide circle of acquaintances. Scorpios are guarded and it takes them a while to trust and open up to someone new, but once you're in, you're in for life.
A gift for a Scorpio man
Even though these stingers might seem intense, they're also emotional water signs. So get them something sentimental, whether that's a framed photo of the two of you, a signed copy of their favourite book, or a romantic weekend getaway. Whatever it is, just make sure it has some emotional significance!
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