Parents, What Are Some "Lies" People Should Stop Believing About Parenthood?

Parents, you've learned a lot of lessons while raising your kids — and you likely have wisdom that you think first-time parents should know, especially when it comes to parenting matters people don't always talk about.

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So, we want to hear from you: What are some parenting "lies" people should stop believing?

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Maybe you were told parenting would come "naturally" once you had kids. But after becoming a parent yourself, the adjustment was more complicated than you expected, and you found it helpful to seek out resources to show up the best way you could for your children.

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Perhaps you're tired of toxic gender expectations when it comes to parenting — that it's a mom's job to primarily take care of the kids while a father just "helps out." So, your family has created a balanced dynamic where both parents are equally involved in your children's lives.

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Maybe you were in a marriage where your spouse was cheating on you, and you tried to "stay together" for your kids — but you learned that was terrible advice, and it was better to model a healthy relationship for your kids instead of staying in a dysfunctional one.

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Perhaps you always heard that your life is "over" when you become a parent, but this stage has been your absolute favorite, and you couldn't imagine your life any other way.

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Or maybe you were told what your kids are going through is "just a phase," but you learned to take their concerns seriously and give them the support they need.

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Parents, in the comments below, tell us a parenting "lie" or misconception that people should stop believing — and be sure to explain what the truth is based on your experience. Or, if you prefer to remain anonymous, feel free to use this Google form. Your response could be featured in an upcoming BuzzFeed Community post.