Man Refuses to Move In with Girlfriend After He Claims She Would Overcharge Him for Rent in a House She Owns

'Her demand on my ‘rent’ for her is twice as much as what I pay for my own place,' and the cost of what her whole house would go for, the user wrote on Reddit.

Turns out you can put a price on love! And for one man, it was way too high.

The man revealed in a post shared on the "Am I the A--hole?" subreddit that he had refused to move in with his girlfriend after she told him the amount she expected him to pay in rent in order to live with her.

“My gf and I have been together for a while. While I make good money, my gf actually had a house she's making payments on,” he wrote on Oct. 30. “We discussed moving in together, and she doesn't feel entirely comfortable adding me to her mortgage, even though we do want to get married eventually."

He continued, “I said it's fine, and I get it, this is her house and she's been dealing with it for years now. But obviously I don't want to be a kept man. I currently rent a place, and it's relatively decent for the price.”

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The Reddit user went on to say that after doing some calculations, he figured out that her rent request was twice what he currently pays for his own place.

“I told her that is absolutely ridiculous," he wrote.

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His girlfriend told him the figure was the going rate for a property like hers, which he deemed "not accurate," claiming it's what renting the whole house solo would cost, not when splitting it with another person.

Still, he added, "I COULD afford it, if I don't save as much, but it'd be too close for comfort."

He claims his girlfriend has accused him of "making excuses" but he drew the line: "I told her I'm not gonna be paying that much," he wrote. " She insists she really wants to live together, but she said I need to pull my own weight."

In the comment section, many readers took the boyfriend's side.

"So she wants you to pay what fair market rental value would be for the ENTIRE house? Even though she'd be living there as well?" one commenter questions, before offering a suggestion. "If she started with half of the fair market rental value, since you'd be sharing the place, that could be a starting point to discuss things.

Another person saw some of the girlfriend's POV: "Being uncomfortable with adding you to a mortgage I get, but this seems like she’s trying to keep you at arms length while using your relationship to help her pay off a mortgage."

Several others guessed the unusual offer was symptomatic of a larger issue.
"This sounds odd," write one redditer. "You are right to question her pricing strategy and even her motivation. Proceed with caution."

Another said simply: "This looks like a hot mess - and a 🚩🚩🚩."

Many experts say rent should either be split 50/50 or divided proportionate to each person's income, according to Slate's Pay Dirt and credit reporting site Experian. A study of unmarried millennial couples, in particular, noted that the majority do not split expenses 50/50, according to CNBC.

Nearly all resources suggest figuring out your finances with a partner before cohabitating.