Husband ‘Furious’ After He Learns Wife Is Pregnant via Social Media: ‘Feels Like I’ve Been Hit by a Truck’

The man shared his story on Reddit

• A man on Reddit shared that he learned about his wife’s pregnancy after one of her friends posted on social media

• The couple had been trying to get pregnant, but he was “furious” that he found out this way

• Ultimately, the husband learned that his wife had told 10 people about the pregnancy before she told him, and he asked Reddit if his anger over the situation was justified

A husband found out his wife is pregnant after months of trying — but the news didn’t come the way he hoped it would.

A 29-year-old man turned to the AITAH subreddit on Reddit to ask about his reaction when he found out his wife was pregnant thanks to a post shared on social media. He wrote that the couple has “been trying to get pregnant for three months.” His wife, 27, was recently visiting family in their hometown, while he stayed at their home hours away.

The drama began when the man’s friend congratulated him on his wife’s pregnancy and shared “a screenshot of an Instagram story posted by one of my wife's friends. The post was my wife crying and hugging some of her friends, with the caption, ‘You are going to be the best mom.' "

“I called her right away, and she answered pretty quickly, saying, ‘I have news, babe,’ ” the man wrote. “All I said was, ‘I know, you're pregnant.’ She replied, ‘Wow, babe, how did you know?’ I just said, ‘Saw it on Insta. Didn't think to call me first, huh?’ ” The mom-to-be was confused, since she didn’t post anything. “I responded, ‘Yeah, but your friends did. That’s one way to find out I’m going to be a dad, thanks,’ and I hung up. I was furious.” His wife kept calling him, but he ignored her.

Then his sister — who had gone to the wife’s parents' house — called. Once his sister heard about the social media post, she told him of his wife, “There’s no way she would do that,” and she promised to get to the bottom of the situation.

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Eventually, his sister called back with a fuller story. “My wife was late on her period and, while hanging out with a friend, they thought, ‘What if you’re already pregnant?’ ” the husband wrote. “So they bought a bunch of pregnancy tests, all of which came out positive. They freaked out, told her parents, and then texted some friends in town to come over. From the time she found out to the time her friend posted on Instagram, only 2 hours had passed. My wife told at least 10 people before telling me.” The sister said that all the friends were “mad” at the friend who posted.

He finally called his wife, who was crying. “She apologized and said she’d been planning to surprise me, which was why she hadn’t told me yet,” he wrote. “I was skeptical and pointed out that if she’d really wanted to surprise me, she wouldn’t have been ready to tell me right when I called. She went silent, and I told her I needed some time to think. She yelled, saying I couldn’t just walk away and that we needed to talk about it. I replied, ‘Why do we need to talk? So you can lie again?’ and I hung up.”

The man wrote that he was “honestly exhausted” and “drained,” adding, “I’ve cried randomly, which is unusual for me; I’m not a crier. This isn’t supposed to be a huge deal, but it feels like I’ve been hit by a truck.”

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“The only thing keeping me going right now is knowing that I’m going to be a dad,” he said. “I’ve dreamed of this, and all I hope is that this baby is healthy. I’ll probably swallow my pride and pretend I’m fine just to avoid making my wife too emotional during the pregnancy.”

Commenters mostly understood why the man was upset and questioned why the “thoughtless” friend had posted. One commenter said it was a “red flag” that the wife told so many people without telling her husband. Another wrote, “My thing is…she was so excited she told everyone.but you. Called her parents and random a-- friends…but not you. Her husband, partner [in] life and father. I would be hurt and also it would make me question things. You should have been one of her first thoughts. Not last.”

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After a few hours, the husband updated his post answering a few questions and making it clear that he and his wife are working things out. He wrote, “I can not emphasize enough how out of character this whole situation is for her. She has many flaws, like every other person, but being inconsiderate is not one of them.”

“That's why I woke up in the middle of the night with a feeling like I'm actually completely wrong on this because she would not do this on purpose,” he continued. He ended up texting her to let her know it was all right. Despite the late hour, she was still awake, and he told her he would drive four hours to come pick her up.

“I told her that I'm very happy, and I'm dying to see her, but we will need to talk about it,” the man concluded.