Daughter Refuses to Attend Mom’s Wedding Celebration to Man She Eloped with Just Months After Her Dad's Death

The woman said she was still left “angry” that her mother had fallen in “love” months after her father’s death

A woman is refusing to attend her mother’s wedding celebration after her mom eloped with a man a little over a year following her husband’s death.

The Redditor shared in a post on Reddit’s popular "Am I The A------" forum explaining that her father passed away suddenly in March 2023 after he having a heart attack and being diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer. She shared that she was “devastated” by his death and that her family sat down together and agreed to have “no big changes for a year.”

However, her mother, who is in her 70s, reconnected with an old friend of hers, who was also a widower and also “gave a speech” at her husband’s “celebration of life.” She said they hit it off in June and “took off” in an RV, traveling around.

"At the beginning of August, [four] months after my dad passed, [my mother] asked me to come to his house. She told me they were in love and were getting married,” the woman recalled. “I cried immediately but pulled myself together. They’ve booked a date for spring 2025.”

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She said that while she understands that her mother “is older and doesn’t have much time left,” she was still left “angry” that her mother had fallen in “love” so soon after her father’s death. She added, “50 years together and she’s in love [four] months after he dies.”

The woman said the couple eventually “eloped” after taking another trip together in September, but still wanted to hold a “wedding celebration in the spring” so that they would have “their kids and grandkids with them.”

However, she noted her mother has been absent since finding her new love, even missing her kid’s birthday for the first time. She said her mother also sold her condo and moved in with the man without telling her.

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“I’m feeling lost. I’m feeling angry. I’m feeling grief for both my dad and feeling like I’m losing my mom,” she wrote. “Their anniversary was only a few days after when she eloped. I don’t want to lose my mom but I feel like I’ve already lost her.”

She then asked, “Is it worth it to suck it up and just pretend to be okay with everything because I don’t know how much time is left? Life is short why be angry? But I am.”

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Several Redditors agreed that the woman wasn’t being unreasonable to feel the way she did, though some noted that she should at least tell her mother why she wouldn’t attend.

“... You at least owe her an explanation as to why you won't be attending,” one person wrote. “You're grieving. It's understandable. But your mom doesn't, and shouldn't, be tied down to a life without happiness and love just because you lost your dad.”

Another said, “I would ask you to think very carefully about whether your feelings around grief and loss and your expectations around when a person can acceptably find love after loss are more important to you than your relationship with your mother. Only you can decide where your priorities are.”

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