Bride 'Refusing to Invite' Sister to Wedding, Causes 'Huge Fallout' Among Family
Even though the bride's choice is "tearing the family apart," she wrote on Reddit that she must protect her peace
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Two women arguing (stock image)A bride-to-be refuses to deal with her sister's "negative energy" on her wedding day.
In a post on Reddit's popular "Am I the A------?" forum, the bride, 27, explained why she is "refusing to invite" her sister, 30, to her wedding — and how the decision came with consequences.
The bride detailed in her Reddit post how her relationship with her older sibling has always been "rocky" but only got worse after she announced her engagement. Her sister's reaction was a let down, to say the least.
"Instead of being happy for me, she seemed almost dismissive and changed the subject whenever I brought up the wedding," the woman wrote. "I tried to ignore it, thinking she might just be going through her own stuff. But then, every time we’d get together with family, she’d make subtle digs about my wedding choices."
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From the size to the budget of the wedding, the sister was "constantly judging" each decision made. "I confronted her once, asking if she had an issue with the wedding, and she just laughed it off, saying I was being 'too sensitive,'" the bride recalled.
Over the past year, the younger sibling has been able to manage her frustrations with her sister. But she reached her limit a month ago when a dig made during a family gathering crossed the line.
"She made a joke about how 'it's a miracle anyone would put up with me for life,' right in front of my fiancé and his family. I was mortified," the woman wrote. "I pulled her aside and asked her to stop, but she got defensive, saying she was just 'joking' and that I needed to 'relax.' "
To the bride, having a "happy, drama-free" wedding day and prioritizing her own "peace and happiness" requires not including her sister at the ceremony. "So, I decided not to invite her," she explained.
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Woman arguing with her parents (stock image)She then revealed that the decision "caused a huge fallout with my family," leading her to second guess her decision. "My parents think I’m overreacting and that I’m tearing the family apart," the bride said before asking the forum, "AITA for uninviting my sister from my wedding because of her constant negativity?"
Commenters concluded that the bride is not at fault — but suggested that she should try to help her parents better understand her choice. They also said that disrespect has no place at a wedding.
"NTA. Anyone who would tell you, 'it's a miracle anyone would put up with you for life' should not be invited to your wedding. Your sister is going to struggle in life if that's how she treats people. And that's definitely not a joke," one Redditor wrote. "Tell your parents that your sister's behavior is offensive and that she's the one who damaged the family relationship. Recommend that they get her therapy."
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Another user commented in part, "She isn't going to change, she might not ruin your wedding per se but she will be extremely rude, dismissive, catty and passive aggressive. She will spend the whole time making derogatory remarks to people about your wedding."
"If family wants her to attend your wedding, they should find out why she's being so disrespectful and get her to stop," they continued. "Your family should be putting an end to her behavior, not enabling her and making excuses for her."
